I love living in my triad, but I find that I sometimes crave some alone time, maybe more so than before we moved in together. Is this weird or what?
—SeekingLiteralCloset
Yours is a common reaction. Wherever each of us is located on the extrovert/introvert scale, everyone wants some mix of social time and alone time. Because life in a triad (or larger poly family) inevitably throws us into contact with our partners more than in a couple or single life, and also more intense contact (because of the need for all those family meetings to sort out issues and the calendar), it seems inevitable that we’ll want to balance that with some time now and then just to read a book or take a solo bike ride or surf the web.
So there’s not a thing wrong with wanting that alone time; indeed, you and your partners might want to talk about it and build that into your family life, in whatever way works best for you. Taking those bike rides or walks alone is one obvious way. If you like time alone at home, maybe you could make signs that read “Do Not Disturb”, which you could hang on the door.
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